"Let's wait a while"

Marriage ages opportunists.

Is finding a partner that much more important than yourself? Is the societal pressures? Family pressures?

I mean, at this point in your life; you're in your early 40's, and this stage is really critical in terms of how people will remember you forever. You were a hardworker, a great activist or even just such a nice guy that people genuinely like and trust you.

Now don't get me wrong. Starting and building your own family is a beautiful thing... we all want the perfect family - but, at what cost? 

You're so busy satisfying the women's material needs that you forget that a child needs a loving Mother and not a trophy wife. I say this, because it's the reality that we see on a daily. Guys are caught up in the rat race because his Mother says she wants grandchildren. Meanwhile... you're working (if you're lucky enough to have a job) at a place where the paycheck goes hand to mounth everytime. 

Guys will have a kid with a girl that's just out of high-school and is barely a grown woman that makes sound decisions (she still wants Guys to buy her drinks and take her to expensive getaways even though she's got a so-called boyfriend)! Ahe wants you to do her hair, her manicure, pay for her kid's (with another guy) school fees and clothes and still spoil her with KFC every now and then ,(lucky for you she hasn't heard of Big Mouth in Sandton).

So basically... yes, you've ticked the boxes:

- you have a kid

- you have a so-called lover

- you're getting paid

But for real though... Guys - we're at that age where life isn't just having fun. You need to have financial planning. Emotional stability. And the physical being to take care of a kid [a family].

I'm not being nasty... just saying!

I love you

Oh! Mom. 

Sweet and innocent, Rosemary (my beauatiful rose 🌹). You're so sweet when you say technology is making things harder for us, when I tell you that it's  indeed making our lives so much easier... imagine having to go to the Dr. everytime for everything when we can just Google the symptoms (yes, imagine if we didn't have Google?!). 

Even when at my levelbest, I try to explain to you and convince you that, voting 🗳 for the ANC is what's killing this country (vote for Land Party if you need representation & change), because you say voting for the DA or any White lead party is putting White people in power and you fear that they'll ill treat us like they did during the Apartheid days (fear not, we as Black people have magic power aswell  - and I don't mean Witchcraft 😉 I'm merely stating that we're a powerful race... a force to be reckoned with!) 

Let's not get started on how I need wifi for everything and you buy an airtime voucher, and you're happy. See... I'm starting to think that I can't [ever] convince you that the world is changing and that we need to "keep up with the times"... you're just a joyful BBT (Born Before Technology 🤣) and life, indeed  - goes on. But you know what? As much as the world can change - you just gotta know that my love for you is higher than the highest mountain ⛰️ and deeper than the deepest sea! 

That'll never change.

Life lemons... or is it lessons...

There are times that you'll go through storms in your life. Go through some tough trials and tribulations. 

Whether you're tested professionally or personally... it still sucks. See... in a professional space it's irritating and frustrating because you need to remain human throughout all the mess. You might find that the person that you're having issues with is your superior and it's not as simple as just typing an email to HR to face your grievances. Personally... you gotta be able to just walk away and say: yikes... you'll be much better off.

Life gives you lemons 🍋 

You turn them into lemonade 🥤

Proud Black man

In 2026, I turned 43.

I went through a lot of self discovery and being myself a lot. I realized that I don't have to beg lovers for attention  - I'm better than that... your loss! I learned that prayer takes away disappointment and that disappointment is huge part of life... grief - oh! The moments of depression that settle in when I miss my cousin who passed away at the tender age of 37... my Dad who left this here realm in 2012 and became an important part of my spirituality! My grandparents (my Mom's parents) and Sister and Brother who passed away before I was born... I long for that connection... I wish I had met them and that they were still alive... I really do!

See... I don't have it all figured out. But, in turn... I am you. You are me. We are each other's social standard... give or take a couple of mistakes... but with that said... I'm proud of my heritage. I'm proud of my Forefathers and my Ancestors. They guide me. They protect me. And they show me love... and with that in my heart... I say: 

Ngiyabonga 

Life

Life moves... it changes_you and it.

When you're a kid... you look forward to Saturday mornings and going life searching with your friends. Then you hit your 20's and realize just how beautiful life is and how much you want to experience it; so you meet people, you party and do questionable things in hopes that you learn a lesson rather than lose the battle... bravery at its peak. The dirty 30's creep in and you start saving money and looking for the right partner. By the time you're in your 40's... time is moving so fast that you want to just press the 'relax' button. Can you find it? Are you intact?

That's why_whenever you get the time to just relax and receive... take it. Breathe. 

Naughty By Nature

A fruit with some personality 😋 

Melusi

Be who you are.